Parenting is a labor of love. Mindful Self-Compassion training teaches parents how to develop the warm-hearted, connected presence needed during challenging moments with their children. This one-day training begins the journey of building the emotional strength and resilience needed to offer ourselves the same kindness and understanding we would offer a good friend in times of stress.
With self-compassion we can motivate ourselves as parents with encouragement vs. criticism, forgive ourselves when needed, and learn the value of repair when ruptures occur. Caring for our children, requires living more authentically and learning to care for ourselves in moments of distress. Research shows that self-compassion is strongly associated with emotional well-being, lower levels of anxiety and depression, healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and more satisfying, intimate relationships with our children. And, self-compassion is a skill that can be learned and cultivated by anyone through Mindful Self-Compassion Training.
Self-compassion: What is It?
Self-compassion is the emotional attitude of bringing kindness to ourselves when things go wrong in our lives. Most of us easily treat our friends and loved ones with warmth, tenderness and patience when they struggle, fall short or fail at times in their lives, but we have a much harder time bringing those same qualities of compassion to our own selves in the same situations. Self-compassion is directed to the one who is suffering, and encourages us to consider the fundamental question of “What do I need?” By recognizing that difficulty is here (mindfulness), that these things are a part of every human life (common humanity), and connecting with our natural capacity for kindness toward suffering (self-kindness), we can develop healthy and enduring patterns of relating to all the circumstances of life, particularly in adolescence when things can seem upside down at times.
The workshop consists of a one-day training in both conceptual and experiential learning to help parents respond with greater kindness and compassion to their own needs as well as the needs of their children. This highly participatory, practical workshop includes:
- Guided instruction in mindfulness and self-compassion meditation practices.
- Introduction to The Three Emotion Regulatory Systems Model as a way of reducing stress reactivity, enhancing emotional regulation and building resilience in parenting.
- Methods for repairing the suffering caused by reactivity.
- Exercises in healthy, compassionate listening.
At the completion of this workshop, parents should be able to:
- motivate themselves with encouragement rather than self-criticism
- relate to difficult emotions with greater moment-to-moment acceptance
- respond to feelings of failure or inadequacy with self-kindness, particularly with regard to the parenting process
- begin to transform stressful moments with their child with patience, kindness and self-validation
- integrate core mindfulness and self-compassion exercises into daily life
This training is a one-day condensed version of the 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion for Parents curriculum adapted from the Mindful Self-Compassion training developed by Chris Germer and Kristin Neff. Self-Compassion can be learned by anyone, even those of us who did not learn these skills as children.
This one day workshop is for parents and for professionals who work with parents and children, and who want to bring kindness and compassion to their life and work with children.